“say yes to the dress” moment is rare. While in college
Confession time: I don’t know the first thing about designer clothes. If I need an outfit for an event, I’ll start off at a consignment shop and slowly work my way over to Nordstrom Rack if I don’t have any luck thrifting. In the end, I’ll just pick something that works with my body and is within my budget because it’s just a dress and not worth obsessing over.
After?finally?(emphasis on the finally for everyone who stuck with me through my hemming and hawing) picking a wedding dress, I can say I’m slightly more knowledgeable about what it takes to have a wonderful and successful dress shopping experience. Get ready for some knowledge dropping.
1. Wedding dresses take a long time to make. Like, a really long time. I never understood why the first thing women did after getting engaged was run out to try on dresses. What’s the rush?
Psssh,一条龙如海浪般自然起伏, these ladies clearly just aren’t as Zen as I am. // Image via?Mint Design Blog?// Photo by George Rizer,?Boston.com
I called a couple dress shops just for fun the week after we got engaged. Hey, when’s your next available appointment? Can I come in and see how I look in a big white dress? Shed a couple emotional tears and walk away, bank account still intact?
My illusions were quickly shattered when the very first shop I called that asked my wedding date freaked out a little bit. “July?!? You need to order a dress NOW.”
Cue panic. Cue fire and brimstone. Cue the feelings that arise when I suddenly realize that I have drastically underestimated something. At that point, I had yet to look at a single wedding-planning timeline and was working?from intuition. Intuition told me that it was impossible for a dress to take that long to make. Intuition was wrong.
So yes, ladies, it can take as long as six-plus months to make what appears to be a pile of silk and lace with some beads on it. Do not underestimate the timelines of wedding dress designers.
2. The magical, “say yes to the dress” moment is rare. While in college, I developed a fleeting obsession with TLC’s Say Yes to the Dress. Probably because I was at that weird age where life is about to suddenly become less structured (school?> college ?> graduation ?> ??? JOB HOUSE WEDDING ???), and I needed something to look forward to besides being painfully unemployed. Fortunately, I’ve grown up a bit since then and adjusted my expectations.
Expectation… // GIF via?Fun Time Viral
… and reality // GIF via?The Hollywood Gossip
I’m no Kim Kardashian, but that was my face with nearly every dress I tried on. Not amazing, not terrible, just…good? A dress? That looks OK on my body and is generally unoffensive?
I expected I’d cry at least a little the first time I put a dress on but…nope. My brain was 100% in cold analysis mode as I mentally considered how this dress looked on my body, how it would fit with my top-choice?venue, if I should wear a veil or flower crown or nothing with it…and so on.
I was so busy thinking about all the decisions that had to be made and how this one piece of fabric was going to fit into the constellation of plans I’d already put into motion that I just didn’t have time to have the happy sobbing emotions you see on television. Which, frankly, was totally OK with me because then I could save the tears for after I got my credit card statement.
Out of curiosity, I took an informal poll of consultants at the four Seattle area bridal shops that I visited. All four said the crying, OMG-this-is-the-dress! moments are rare and Say Yes to the Dress really plays it up for a television audience. In hindsight, this should have been obvious, but college-aged Miss Feather was not quite wise to the ways of Hollywood yet.
3. Shopping alone is not the end of the world. Since moving to Seattle just three short months ago, I’ve made approximately 2.5 friends.?This is a serious accomplishment for a work-from-home introvert like myself and took many hours of scouring available meetups, going to meetups, and whining about how hard it is to make friends as an adult.
At first, I was a little bit sad to be planning a wedding in a city where I don’t have any close friends. I thought about waiting to shop for my wedding dress until a close friend from Germany came to visit in late March, or seeing if my cousin could fly out to join me. After realizing how long dresses take to make, I said, “Screw it!” and went to 75% of my appointments alone.
Actually, Gretchen, I would. // GIF via?MTV.com
As it turned out, going alone was an awesome decision. I was able to try on a lot more dresses than I would have if there had been a panel of judges giving critiques. And candidly, I don’t think I could have dealt with more than one person there giving me opinions. Which leads me to my next point…
4. Listen to other people’s opinions. Then ignore them. Because I went to almost all of my appointments alone, I ended up texting dress pictures to a ton of friends. Plus my mom. Plus my Oma. Plus anyone who hadn’t already screamed,香港开码现场直播168, “Stop! They all look the same! Just pick one!”
Me IRL // GIF via?gifsec.com
For the most part, my friends and family agreed with my top choices. This is probably because I was smiling the biggest in those photos, but I prefer to think that they were completely unbiased. My Oma didn’t like any of the dresses I liked from the first few stores, and her favorite was a dress with a bodice resembling my mom’s wedding dress from the ’80s. Oh my.
What’s most important as a bride is that you’re happy with your decision. So, as Fleetwood Mac says, you need to go your own way when it comes to making these big decisions.
5. Trust your gut. After going to three shops without having an outpouring of emotions (or any emotions at all, besides a couple tears the first time I tried on a veil), I started to critically analyze my options based on the photos I’d taken. This one or that one? Or the other one? Cheaper one or $500 more expensive one?
Also me IRL // GIF via?Giphy
In the end, I picked the dress that made feel like a million bucks, was within my budget, and photographed well. Of course, Oma voted for my second choice instead. C’est la vie, Oma. C’est la vie.
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